On managing your sexy pics
Today on Episode 8 of The Crossover was an important discussion on sexual harassment.* Well-known UI designer and speaker Sarah Parmenter experienced some seriously vile treatment during a conference...
View ArticleThe Stranger
Welcome, Stranger readers! If y’all found me because of an ad in your favorite online alternative weekly, lucky you! That means you get 15% off any services booked before the end of February, 2013....
View ArticleBang first, and other Valentine advice
As I mentioned the other day, Valentine’s Day and its accompanying frenzy is right around the corner. Whee! Thankfully, Valentine’s Day Panic (VDP) is one of those things you can opt out of, like my...
View ArticleLast-minute Valentines
Cutting it a little close, are we? Well, if you decide to celebrate Giant Red Heart Day but you still don’t have a gift idea for your sweetie, fear not. There are lots of thoughtful ways you can set...
View ArticleFinding a Valentine at the last possible minute
You’ve heard me whine about Valentine’s Day and you’ve heard me offer up some advice. Now it’s time to take the bull by the horns and MANIFEST a Valentine! If you want one, that is. No pressure. :)...
View ArticleA broader definition of online dating
Most of the consulting I do relates to online dating sites, such as Match.com or eHarmony. However, lots of people meet through media that are a little less obviously online-datey. In fact, a pal of...
View ArticleCatch me where you can!
I just wanted to let you guys know that I expect to be making stops in Portland (OR), Philadelphia, and New York City later this spring. I don’t have exact dates nailed down yet, but if you’ve been...
View ArticleThoughts on MTV’s Catfish
I didn’t even know about Catfish (the show) until I saw the SNL parody. Catfish feels like it’s stuck in 1999, back when the Internet was younger, our technology was simpler, and it was much harder to...
View ArticleThe truth about lies
There’s a recent study out about how a bunch of guys tell a bunch of lies in their dating profiles. Specifically, the creepy-to-me auction-style online dating site What’s Your Price conducted a...
View ArticleeHarmony and homophobia
eHarmony’s CEO Neil Clark Warren disgusts me. In his recent interview with Yahoo! Finance, he whines in an auto-playing video about how the same-sex couples discussion has harmed his company’s image,...
View ArticleFun online dating announcements
Hey daters, I’ve been working on a couple of side projects that I want to tell you about! First of all, so many of you have fun questions for me. I love answering them, because I just live for helping...
View ArticleWe need more women designing dating tech
This New Yorker piece by Ann Friedman explores the imbalance of male-designed dating technology with such an eloquent and understandably squicked-out approach. After all, the whole reason my business...
View ArticleThere’s no script for life
This gal I follow on Twitter composed a tweet that I found surprisingly poignant: It’s not that you did something wrong, it’s that you didn’t do exactly what I wrote in the mental script for my life. –...
View ArticleJoan Rivers agrees with me.
You heard it from InTouch by way of Molly Lambert at Grantland first, folks: Joan Rivers: “Everything I wear is vintage, which is another word for ‘old.’” Also: “Online dating is the village square of...
View Article“You’re not in a relationship.”
Dan Savage gives sex and relationship advice over at The Stranger, and his 3/13 column had a very sound point. (Standard Savage Disclaimer: Not for the faint of heart; read at your own risk; skip to...
View ArticleTechie rom-coms I adore
I bash rom-coms sometimes, because I think they sometimes lead people to set up false expectations about how love will find them (so they don’t have to do anything to try and help it along). However,...
View Article“Online dating works great, you’re just doing it wrong”
A couple weeks ago, this CNN Money piece attempted to take down online dating. However, as this Digital Trends rebuttal point out, the author and his cohort basically just elaborate their own string of...
View ArticleHave you ever fibbed about how you met?
I’m a regular reader of Slate’s “Dear Prudence” column, and this week’s entry had the following exchange: Q. Relationships: My boyfriend and I have been dating for two-and-a-half years and we’re likely...
View ArticleCollege hookup culture
In yesterday’s NextDraft, Dave Pell included the following item: The Week kindly provides six ways of looking at the college hookup culture. I actually looked at it a seventh way: From afar. I kinda...
View ArticleAnne Lamott’s year of Match.com
Anne Lamott is an amazing writer. I was first turned on to her by Ali Basye, and later by Merlin Mann. Her book, Bird by Bird, is an amazing tool to become a better writer, and her voice is so...
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